Hello! My name is Rita, I am 28 years old and I am from Russia (my beloved sunny Krasnodar), but I have been living in India for a year and a half now. What am I doing here? I am married to Indian. But not a typical Indian. And I believe that even living in such country like India is possible to remain yourself, though sometimes it isn’t easy, but not necessary to live according to social stereotypes. But let’s start from the beginning…
At school, I was a shy nerdy class toper, who was perceived only so. Although I didn’t look exactly like one ever (now, looking from the Indian perspective, it seems very strange for me to remember how a shy nerd went to school in short skirts and with make up)
At one point, my life and my mindset changed by 360 degrees: when I was 16 years old, I became a model. More precisely, only began to try. But immediately I saw an aggressive “panic” of people from the discrepancy of stereotypes in their heads. You will not believe me, but I even have been bullied for my desire to be a model! I have never been “a part of the group” anymore, but I didn’t want already. I no longer worried about people’s opinions and I realized how important it is for the human psyche and self-development!
After school finished, I could choose any profession. But I decided to listen to myself, because I didn’t want to hate every day of my future life then. So, friends, by graduation I am a decorator and ethnographer. Decor is something that I love to do: for the opportunity to do something from nothing, to transform the ugly into the beautiful or to give old things a new life! As an ethnographer, I studied and fell in love with Russian traditional culture history, despite the fact that at that time it was “unfashionable”. It was very interesting for me to study, it was like a “time machine”. But in the same time I was always happy that now we don’t have to live according to the strict rules of traditional culture. Paradox, yes? (Who knew that in a few years traditional culture would become my real surrounding, not just a historical knowledge?) The ethnographer’s gaze, however, helps me to understand social processes abroad much better.
I have been a vegetarian for 10 years now, but it happened NOT because of India, like many people think, it happened much earlier.
I worked as a model for many years, and yes, no matter how opposed to stereotypes it sounds, but this work has really shaped my spirit. According to me, modeling is harder than office work. I worked as a model in India also, shot a lot for advertisement of Indian clothes, traditional also (if you want to learn how to become model in India, please Click Here – this is a little bit out of topic of my website, but I want to share my experience because it can be helpful to someone, plus fashion industry is something that shows modern part of India, probably, the most).
I have also tried myself in other professions: car insurance, content writing and even marionette theater. I am also interested in such areas of knowledge as psychology, philosophy and spiritual development, medicine and health, ecology, politics.
Now again about India: the first time I came to the country in 2012, to Mumbai, in 2013 I came to Delhi. And in Delhi I live now. In 2016-2017 I spent a lot of time here, because I have been already dating my husband. In 2018, at the end of February I moved here, and in May we got married. However, we didn’t have a typical Indian wedding, I didn’t change religion and they way I dress up after marriage.
India is the country that never stops to make me wondering about the way people mix traditions and modern life here. It makes my ethnographer’s mind to analyze and imagine, how would my country look like if our traditions wouldn’t just exist in books and museums now but be a part of daily routine until today, or what will be happening in India after a few decades…
As an ethnographer, I believe in the need to remember our roots. But in the same time I consider myself a person without mentality. It seems to me that in the modern world blind following of the habits of the past only contributes to establishment of boundaries in people’s minds, the separation and possible aggression between them and sometimes racism and even wars. Since now the borders between the countries are more open than ever, I believe people should be more open-minded to each other as well!
What my blog is about? —-> Click Here